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What Challenges You Changes You


Don’t shy away from pain, lean into it and see what it has to teach you.

We are Divine, infinitely powerful beings with the universe inside of us. If you’re hurting, what’s INSIDE that for your gain.

Life is happening “for” us, not to us.

When things feel hard, it doesn’t mean they aren’t working out, it means there is MORE TO COME.

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God Is On My Side


God gave us an earth that was unfinished so we could work with what’s here and in the process know our powers as CREATORS.

I know of nothing else (except parenthood) that shows us how strong, capable and un-bendable we are inside.

Your goals want you as much as you want them.

The universe has your back.

Things are working for your good, even your so called, “set backs.”

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Stay Steady in Transition

steady in transition

One of the reasons I love the sea, is that it reminds me that everything comes and goes.

Life is always changing. A situation comes today, and by tomorrow it’s over. That was the deal–the way this was set up.

We, eternal beings, would be placed on a planet where everything was constantly in motion. A thousand things a day would come at us–some of them difficult and confusing–but all of them temporary, while we searched for happiness, and survival.

What would we do? How would we respond?

The flow is always coming, and another going at the very same time.

While I sit here in front of the ocean, I have the thought of two years ago when I went through some really hard times. I can’t remember much. The details are so faint in my head now. The one part I can remember, is thinking that I was going to die, the pain was so intense sometimes.

I didn’t die…. [ to my surprise at times]

I just kept living. I couldn’t die, it seemed.

I’d fall into bed exhausted, and the next day would tap on my shoulder and wake me up wanting to me to live it. Day after day, new opportunities came to learn and integrate that learning into my being.

I am so saturated in happiness now, I sit in wonder often at how all this came to be.

As the waves roll in one after another, no end in sight, I am looking for the pattern, trying to pin point how I got from there to here.

I remember that in each life situation that came rolling in, I would look for my own center–Even if it tumbled me, I was looking to grip the ground.

In everything, I asked God to walk me through it.

I let go of blame and anger and looked for the fastest entry point to peace.

I always had to take that exit alone, getting rid of the story of “everyone else,” –what they said, what they thought, what they did — blah, it only weighed me down.
Christ–who is the God of my understanding–WAS my tour guide. It was His voice I looked for; His presence, and I could find it every time I silenced the world and asked him to meet me.

A while ago, someone asked me how I got to be attuned to spiritual things. I have no answer except that I know if you reach for your God a thousand times, a REAL BEING comes to meet you. He is completely alive. His voice sounds a certain way. His Spirit has a resonance. His Light is so familiar. He is not an ethereal fictitious character written with black ink on thousand year old pages. He — is — close, so reachable.

There is no lack of access to Him; all of our separation is lack of desire and discipline in reaching FOR Him.

And that was THE WAY. A true, genuine relationship from one soul to another.
It’s the answer I am looking to give to myself when I wonder how I got from pain to peace.

My own affidavit that God is in our cells, waiting for us to take look into our own DNA.

The more we practice PEACE, the more it becomes who we are. And soon, we get so tall, that a lot of waves roll in that we don’t even notice.

I am not sure what tomorrow will bring. Thankfully, I don’t need to know. There will definitely be more waves.

Yesterday there were four different people who expressed a unhappiness with me for different reasons. There were two phone calls of business emergencies, a total emotional fit from my daughter, and a twelve year old deeply unhappy I said no to him. Plus, I have a load of whites I haven’t washed for three days and I am totally out of underwear now. (That’s probably more than people want to know.)

There is going to be more waves…lol…I know that for sure.

They will come and go.
That’s what waves do.

I will always have the same question in front of me.

How do I want to experience this?
Who do I want TO BE while I am here?

I really do feel, that looking for the CENTER, the Highest response, and direction from the God of my understanding, is the ONLY answer there is ever going to be to these thousands of situations.

And the ONLY ONE required.


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I Approve of Myself


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Everyday, you are creating your life according to your deepest beliefs. The more you allow these “I am” beliefs into your mind, the more they will take root in your life.

A must have arsenal in your skill sets.


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Things Work Out


Things Work Out

Love this little reminder that there’s always an answer.

Stillness is the partner of knowing. Knowing comes by feel, and we can’t get to knowing until we can calm down our thinking.

Trust. Deep breaths.

The way will appear.

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The Kingdom of God is Within You


It no longer surprises me to read things like, “The kingdom of God is within you.”

If you believe that YOU ARE DIVINE and have a GOD-SELF inside of you, life is easier.

It’s more difficult to believe that you are unworthy and desperate to be good enough in God’s eyes.

Our plan was to plunge below our heavenly home, live away at earth school, experience everything WE ARE NOT, have a veil covering our minds so we know little outside of now, encounter opposition on every side–even from within our current nature, and be left to struggle day to day for survival (natural cause for stress built right into the fabric of the system)

and against these odds and limitations.. the GOD SELF (in embryo) would rise in us, and re-create what we already know deep within.

By CALLING it FORTH AGAIN (against opposition in and around us), we would accelerate our growth in a way that no other situation could equal.

We become stronger, more knowledgeable, and LEGIT–having REAL DATA, TRUE ABILITIES that took the form of something tangible in who we are, being earned with the street cred of EXPERIENCE.

This is a great plan. I love this plan.

It was the plan for your day today and it’s what’s on the agenda for tomorrow.

It is so much EASIER to believe this–that you have a God-self a process of wakening…than to scramble around on the ground looking for your worth.

Because from that knowledge, it is easier to rise.

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We Can Only Control Ourselves


My husband and I had some mentoring on MINDFULNESS.

Even though we have a spirit, we also have an EGO MIND.

The ego mind has quick, emotional reactions always designed to protect itself, always in the position of being “right.”

MINDFULNESS teaches us to be AWARE of those knee-jerk reactions, but not believe they tell us the core truth and not to act them out.

When you are MINDFUL, you watch them pop up; you investigate your own responses.

Being aware of them allows you to get to the core truth faster; And choose responses aligned with your spiritual values of love and kindness.

What I learned the most from our training is to LIVE IN AWARENESS of my inner self at all times.

That awareness leads me to the truth and to respond with peace.

As I have control over myself–and my own responses to life–I have the only kind of control that works.

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When you get to a certain level of a JOY awareness, you start to fix things that for years, you didn’t have any clue were broken.

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Reborn Today

I have just been born this day.

It is as though I have never existed before Now. Everything is new again, everything is alive with Joy, and with L-I-F-E. There is no past in my mind. There are no post regrets, no such thing as mistakes. If I have been here before now, I have been a vessel on a river carrying my forward living as one thing, living for one thing; Learning.

I would say that I had forgiven all my debtors, but I don’t remember having any. If anyone caused harm to me, it was not to me, but to themselves and I wish them peace and freedom.

I would say that I had forgiven myself of my debts, but I can’t remember them.

I only have NOW. This moment, sitting outside as the sun rises into the sky, in the fresh Fall air, with the distant sound of a bird alerting us that it’s almost here.

The Day. The Sun. A new Life.

Here I Am.

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If You Think People Need You…You’re Creating Problems

One of the secret places that my ego has hidden itself has been in the “I am here to help you” syndrome of my early thirties.

And my twenties.  And now that I’m thinking about it, I’m pretty sure I was like that as a teenager, too.  Okay, okay, until the Spring of this year, I was still it’s prisoner.

Here I was the big, strong, smart chicky momma with all the answers swooping down to help the little guy.  The friend, the neighbor, the sister–everyone got my advice, much of it was just verbally vomited onto any live person in a twenty foot radius.

Even the Mc Donald’s cashier couldn’t hide from my unsolicited “help” as I’d begin to ask them about their “dream job” and ask what might be in their way of achieving it.

Listen lady, do you want super size that or not?

Poor guy just wanted to hand me a box of french fries, not have his whole existence analyzed by a stranger.

Blah. Makes me want to laugh, and throw-up in my mouth a little. Now that I’ve been on this road a while longer, I’ve learned some principles that have brought me tremendous peace and I’m sure “helped” others a lot more than the other way.

Here’s some very straight talk for Changemakers…

1. If YOU want change for a person more than THEY want it…you are out of alignment.  This is YOU playing way out of bounds.  People can only authentically change when it’s what THEY want for themselves, and not until.

2. There is nothing you can do to save another person.  You can help people out sometimes–take over dinner, lighten their load, clear their energy field, you can listen to their pain for awhile, but ALL true change COMES from WITHIN.  Unless a person’s desire to change comes from inside of them, and they are ACTING on it, anything you do will only be cosmetic and temporary.  If YOU are confused about that in any way, THEY will also be confused.   Relationships where ONE PERSON is trying to save ANOTHER person usually end up in resentment from one or both parties.  Because that agreement began in dysfunction, it usually ends in dysfunction.

3. Life teaches us and God has Everyone on the Radar Life takes care of us more than we realize.  It leads us along to the next point of learning, and we can never escape our own tutoring.  I loved hearing my friend whom I’ll call Mark, tell me a story about how he had listened to a man for hundreds of hours talk about how this man’s wife was addicted to drugs.  Over and over and over Mark had told this man to step away from his wife’s dysfunction (not realizing that my friend really wanted his own advice :)  One night, this man ended up spending a night in jail because of the madness of his drug addicted wife.  One night in jail woke him up more than all of the hours combined that my friend had poured into the relationship–with no results.  God loved the man more than Mark loved the man, and LIFE had been his teacher.  It teaches us all of us, right on time.

4. When Someone Changes, THEY are the ONES who DO it, not you. I love it that when people thank me now for the work they think that I have done for them, because I don’t get caught in the trap of congratulating myself, too.  I always smile because inside I know the real truth.  THEY DID IT!  They attracted the teaching, the coaching, the book, or whatever…They Listened to it.  They took action.  They got the results.  So, really, they are the ones that they get to thank and often I THANK THEM for the change THEY brought into the world.  I really didn’t “do” anything.  I am just living. I am living my life naturally each day, each moment, each breath, in a way that feels right to me.  That’s the only thing I congratulate myself for.

So…now that we’ve outlined some boundaries in this whole Changemaker thing (and what not to do) what is a Good Game Plan for us TO DO?

There is really ONE thing on which to focus.

LIVE and CONNECT to SPIRIT.  Every day there is just ONE PLAN.  Open your eyes, find your God Source, & follow that Source each moment.

When you find Divine Source and connect to it, the Source lives THROUGH You.

The Source speaks the words.  It breathes through the body.  It moves through the day.  When the mind becomes silent, the infinite wisdom of the Source has room to speak. Every moment is filled with wonder of what comes next.  It knows when to answer the phone and when to let it ring.  It tells you when to hold the child and when to let them play alone while you write the next article.  It tells you when to give $100 to the homeless person and when to walk by and just send love.

The Source knows it all and guides it all, and the more that You (the ego-ic “I”) dissolve, the more space you clear for the Source to find a home in you.

The Source is what does the perfect work through us, and saves and inspires and when we are at ONE with it, we have no need to save others or be “thanked.”

We are just happy because we are.







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