One Sunday, I was late for my church meeting because I was coaching a friend through a major life decision. I sat outside the building and I wondered if I should still go in. There was about 5 minutes left. I had the feeling that I should and I opened the door, dismissing the thoughts of lateness and awkwardness.
When I sat down, I heard the speaker say, “We are here to mourn with those that mourn and bear one another’s burdens.”
Interesting, I thought. Relevant. I missed most of church, because I had just been doing that very thing.
As I listened further, she said “As WE serve other people, we learn to love like God.”
I could feel those words resonate down to my toes.
I sat and reflected on all the times people had let me into their lives.They will tell me about the affair, the addiction, the abuse, or their deepest insecurities.
Often, they have been playing the part, or putting on a show for others, but sometimes within a few minutes of meeting me, they will open their core container and spill it’s messy contents.
And I listen.
Somehow God has given me complete love and openness and literally erased all reactions of judgment from my mind.
I did not come to the earth with this gift, as I was quite the bitch in my twenties ready to hammer every living thing with a label.
As I grew up, I asked to love and accept others and He said yes.
When other people see “mistakes” I see a person who is suffering and on an important journey of learning more.
When other people say, “They shouldn’t have done that,” I see someone doing the best they can with what they knew and ready to create a new experience.
I am still a student learning how God loves us. I ask for His love everyday to be shared with me so that I can spread it to others, and I move along at this at my own pace.
What I know is that the “natural mind” is the enemy to this love.
The mind is separation. The mind is a constant spin cycle that the stirs up thoughts of people, and judgments about their lives and the stories we tell and re-tell and fragments the human race into 7 billion separate units.
In the place of “no thought,” total simplicity comes forward.
When I coach with people, I practice “whole body listening.”
I listen with ALL of who I am, which allows me to receive another person with a more mature, more spiritual view.
The immature mind would cut up their life and current decisions into “good or bad,” but whole body listening is to receive ALL of who they are with Grandfather-style wisdom.
It sees ‘mistakes” as experiences and a temporary stage, not a representation of who they are.
The practice of true listening connects us to inner knowing.
Inner knowing is connected to God.
Buddhists call this, “beginner’s mind.”
Beginners mind is to look at someone so fresh and so new, that there is a clear space to receive the truth of their divinity.
In Christianity, this is Charity, or unconditional love.
Unconditional love is an energy of Unity, coming from God, living through everysingle living being, walking on the street in freedom, or waiting on death row,connecting us all to each other, and to our One Creator.
You and I cannot escape from this reality.
No matter how many stories we tell to each other (or tell about each one another), we all share the same heart source.
We’re from the same family, thrown together in an earth-sized blender, scrambled around in every possible scenario, recalling some days, and other days, totally forgetting the reason we’ve been put here together…
IS to RE-MEMBER OURSELVES to LOVE.