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The Importance of Being Open-Minded


One of my mentors recently told me, “you’ve changed light years since we started working together”.

It was true. I felt I had lived five lifetimes in just two years.

Why do you think so much has changed so fast? I asked him.

He went quiet for a minute, reflecting. As with everything, he wanted to give his truest answer.

You are open. All the time. Even if you disagree completely with me, or can’t see something, you’ll look at it. Always. You stay open and you never stop looking for the answer until you have it.

I took that to heart and realized that some of our most life changing sessions had happened out of things I was blocked about or just “disagreed with” but then my own limitations would sweep away after more questions.

I was in bed for nearly 3 months in the beginning part of our mentoring, not sure if I was going to keep living here on earth or die and continue on somewhere else.
crazy to think how many miles have been coveted in such a short time. Amazing really.

Open mind, asking questions, never giving up on the answers and a relentless unyielding desire to find the way — those are all keys. Grateful today!!

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Wake Up to a Calling

Wake Up to a Calling

The day I decided the only work I would do in the world was something that mattered, things changed for me.

I left a small mechanical life and went instead, for more depth, meaning, and pushing limits, mostly my own.

It was worth it.

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The Biggest Enemy to Your Success is This ONE Thing.

You are free to create whatever you want in your life.

Creation is a few very simple steps… (repeated over and over again)

When this process is clear and un-obstructed, you can get what you want.
You can start a new business and succeed at it.
You can set a goal and experience yourself achieving it

Unfortunately, creation has an enemy and the enemy is inside of you.
It’s the MIND.

The mind is a MASTER RECORDER and the contents of the mind will play back the unfilled needs and failure of your past.
(and sometimes even your parent’s past)

This continual replay of the past, IMPEDES the PROCESS of what you are trying to do TODAY.

It’s CLOUDS what is otherwise a clear runway and makes taking off difficult, even terrifying for some people to go for what they want!

THE PAST–or your memory and interpretations of the past–are your biggest HINDRANCES.

What most people don’t know about the universe is that it’s set up to help you succeed at what YOU want.
And you may not know that. It’s almost like the earth wants you to be a brilliant success.
The universe has a natural way of things unfolding in their own time and way.  It’s the same with your personal goals and dreams, just like it is with the weather.

If you will get out of the way with the creation process, you will see that you are destined to succeed far GREATER than a little mind linked to a limited past can imagine.

And you will see how NATURAL it all is.

You FEEL a DESIRE, a goal you want to achieve.  yellowhighthoughts
That goal becomes an INTENTION, a wanting, a desire moving into activity.
Then you ACT. You go get things done.  You move, you complete tasks.

The doing comes naturally. You know what to DO, whom to talk to, when to ask for help and what questions need answered first.

It’s simple. It’s powerful. It’s like something wants to be created THROUGH you, and if you open your mind and stop worrying about failure, and let your heart play totally and completely FREE in a huge realm of what’s possible NOW (not what used to be impossible back then) you will love every minute of what you are doing.

Another way of saying this is…. YOU ARE FREE RIGHT NOW,

But YOUR PAST is YOUR ENEMY keeping you down.
And your mind HOLDS the ENEMY right inside your very own thoughts.

Every creative, powerful thought you have is being shot at with arrows.

If you can clear your mind, you will  see the enemy where it lies and not take it so seriously. Eventually those arrows turn into marshmallows and you don’t have any reaction but laughter when thoughts of failure come.

This is the process.

To be your very own best friend.

Let yourself DESIRE every good, wonderful, successful thing you possible can imagine.

And recognize that you were born to be a CREATOR from on high, this moment, with the project that’s in front of you, on this brand new day that you’ve never before had and will never have again.

And that the whole thing is completely untouched waiting for you to crush it.

When you are THAT clear; THAT powerful.
I dare you not to succeed.

You already know you will.

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The Warrior Retires the Swords for Fluffy Pink Pajamas. (Part 1)

I don’t know how to relax.
I mean, really relax. Like way deep down inside where my cells sigh and say, “ahhhhhhh.”

I hear that people take vacations to relax, and I can do that for a day or two before I’m sneaking off to use my cell phone in the bathroom stall to text my office manager to see how the sales are coming.  (She usually tells me to knock it off. Though I do believe at this very moment she is in vacation in London answering office emails. Clearly, I pulled her over the other side.)

I do know how to take slow, deep breaths.   
And meditate.
And pray.
And surrender my life to this moment…

For five minutes at a time.

But on that sixth minute?
Surrender is a pile of horse shizzle ten miles on the road behind me, because I’ve already jumped back into the saddle and I’m driving at life full speed ahead with whips in my hands.

I would like to learn to relax.

But who will clean the house, pay the bills, drop off the kids, and look for the lost pair of church pants every single Sunday for ten years running?  Who will do the tele-seminars, and send you the recordings within twenty-four hours, thank you very much, train the teams, and create new email campaigns?

The relaxed lady with her feet kicked up in the air, sipping a Virgin Pina Colada (I had to add that, because it just seemed right even though I don’t drink Pina Coladas. I’m also not a virgin. Thankfully.)

I think not.  She is a lovely idea in my mind.  A woman that I ONE DAY want to be.

But I honestly do not know how.  The healer in me would love to retire the warrior for one day, or forty-seven, but warriors do not retire easily.  You know what usually happens to them?

They die in battle.

And this is how I really feel sometimes, like I am going to die if I don’t change my ways.  Well, not really D-I-E all the way, like 6 feet under die (let’s not be dramatic) but like all my circuits are going to blow out and I’ll be down, baby down, face first on the ground if I don’t learn how to relax more.

I want this change and yet, I find that I am a constant dichotomy–morphing between a healer and a warrior. A Siamese kitten, and a lion..

I am one part: “Let’s kick some business butt and conquer the world.”
And one part: “Let’s just sit on our butt and meditate and hope we can save the world.”

I’ve got quite the circus going on inside here, and I am sure you are just as confused. My readers and students must surely wonder, “Who is this lady? And how many personalities can one person have? Are we doing email marketing today or ascension meditation?
Is it SEO or EFT?”

However, I know it’s time to change.  I’ve been getting this spiritual message for many months now.  I need to relax more.  I need to slow down more, soften my ways, and live more frequently in the lighter side of my soul. In fact, last week during meditation, the message was so clear, that it was unmistakeably delivered in ONE VERY DEFINED sentence in my mind. The messenger was Christ. (If this is weird for you it only lasts a few seconds. So keep reading.)

“You don’t have to fight anymore.” 

And I had a visual flash through my mind. A visual of me with two swords in my hand, surrounded by a gang of people, and I was holding them off with clenched fists and long blades.

Now, this is not the way my life actually LOOKS … I mean the streets aren’t that rough in suburbia, but this is most definitely, how it FEELS.

This is the chic that gets stuff done.

She’s the one that survived 10 years of sexual abuse as a child, the death of her father to a drug overdose, 9 years married to a husband with no job while he went to school full time (while she had two babies.) She wrote a book, started a company, went to 6 figures in under a year, broke sales records, created 7 coaching programs, all while putting dinner on the table every night (almost) and raising those two babies, plus two more.

When I need to do something, anything that might seem difficult, I go find her.  I go right into that warrior energy. She is intensity, and fire, and she will go animalistic on anything in her way.

Although, I am beginning to feel she is not the real me. I have played her so often, that I’ve “become” her at times, and not known another way to live. I think the “real” me is super soft, very gentle, and kinda yummy inside like a big fat warm juicy doughnut.  Much of the time, I can visit my life this way–but I never live there for long.

I think she is how I LEARNED to be.  She is tough because she had to be to survive this place. I love this warrior woman.  I owe my life to her. She saved my butt from defeat about 10,000 times and if my life looks in any shape, way or fashion to you that it is even the slightest bit glamorous or easy, we have obviously never actually met each other.

But when life feels like it’s a battle, you can get very, very tired and after three and half decades of one territory to claim after another, you long for a soft bed and fluffy pink jammies.

It was clear, that something had recently shifted for me.  I wasn’t just feeling it, I was being told that those times were over, or at least temporarily suspended. I earned my stripes as a warrior. I did what I came to do with that part of me. I needed that warrior side to tame some very rough territory these first few decades of earth life. I went through hell and healed it. I birthed the babies and the book.  I started the company and the coaching programs.

And now the General was changing my marching orders…
“You don’t need to fight anymore.”

Not a moment passed before I asked Him in total bewilderment, but absolute sincerity …“How will I get anything done?”

He answered me in a simple, loving, “Let me pat you on the head, you well meaning, adorable, sweet, very young child” manner…

Just ask for it.

And then another picture flashed through my mind: A queen in her castle, governing her life, calmly ruling her affairs of the day with clarity and wisdom.

I thought to myself. Who would I rather be— The renegade warrior on the battle field, or the queen in the castle? And am I really so naive as to think that I have to fight and struggle to accomplish my mission here and that I will somehow do more good as the puny warrior in the middle of a fight, rather than a queen, calmly ruling her affairs.

And the next thought …

Hold the phone.
Is that what everyone else has been doing all this time?



I knew the message was right and I chose to follow it.

I felt peaceful…for a moment

But the next day, I went into total panic….

(to be continued) …. hopefully soon.

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Get a Life … and Stop Waiting for People to Give You a “Calling”

What are you CALLED to?

Every person on the earth has a CONTRIBUTION they are here to make. They have a gift inside of them that’s wrapped in the perfect packaging for someone else to receive that will create a positive change in that person’s life.

This is truth and it cannot be debated.  I call it, The Law of the Gift.

Just like The Law of Gravity holds you here on this planet, the Law of the Gift, holds you to something higher.

It is fundamental. Existential. A Total Absolute. 

The problem is that we are so busy just trying to survive that we can’t see it. We live only for ourselves, only for this day, only to make it to the end of the day.

The other problem is that we get very very confused when we are soaked so deeply in insecurity, that we can’t see straight.

Recently, I coached a woman who said, “I feel like I cannot share my voice with others, because I am afraid of what they will think of me.”

This woman has been trapped inside of her house for a long, long time. Her fears had literally “shut her in” and shut her down. It’s wonderful to be a person that stands for truth and stands for it in such a way that you will tell the truth to people even when the mind will tell you it’s difficult, or even rude, to say.  Here she was tender, vulnerable, and frightened.

“Being nice” to people is not what I get paid for.

I loved her. And I loved her enough to tell her the truth.

I said, “How is that the most selfish thing in the world?”

She paused. No answer.

I asked another question, “How is that belief making this whole thing all about you, and the most selfish thing you can say?”

No response. I didn’t know what was happening on the other end of the phone. She could have dropped it in the toilet for all I knew.

Oh well. I continued anyway ….

“You’re making this whole thing about you,” I said. “And you’ve closed in on yourself in the process.”

“Listen to it again”

I am afraid of what THEY will think … of ME.”

“This is self-oriented in every way. When you heal your own insecure beliefs about yourself, you can be free to LIVE and SPEAK and SHARE as you feel it will best benefit others. When you really love people, and all you want to do is help them get better, YOU WILL SPEAK. And if they love you or hate you, it won’t matter to you. Because it has nothing to do with you anyway.”

I challenged her to take a few small simple steps to share her voice.

I haven’t heard from her since.

Insecurity is pure, plain selfish state of being. It’s not about you.

You have gifts inside to share with other people and you’ll be happier if you get up and yield yourself to it.

If you keep waiting for someone to give you a calling, you’ve given your LIFE MISSION to someone else. If you think you’re kids are your only purpose and their is nothing else for you, they are going to one day want you to get your own life and you’ll have no idea what to do.

If you are waiting for people to validate you, encourage you or tell you that you’re good enough, you’re still curled up in a womb on insecurity waiting to be born.

Get a life. Really. Get up, ASK GOD to reveal your PURPOSE to you and show you the next step.

One step after another and you’ll get there, but it won’t unfold for you until you’re feet hit the pavement, I can promise you that. You’ll see ONE STEP ahead of you and if you are one of those people that want the entire plan to unfold before you move, time to get out of YOUR HEAD, because that’s not how we do it here.
You get ONE day. One Step. One moment…and then the next opens up for you.

THIS IS THE DAY GOD MADE for ME (Psalms 118:24) 

I love this verse, I LIVE THIS VERSE.

This is the day for me.

This is the day I can make a difference here.

This is the day I get to speak and share.

This is the day the world get better because of me.

This is the day, THIS … is … MY Time …



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