Stop trying to make or influence people’s life decisions FOR them. Instead …
1. ASK THEM: WHAT do you WANT?
After they identify it …
2. ASK: WHAT ARE ALL YOUR OPTIONS?
Let them list ALL the possibilities (and suggest some they might not see)
3. WHICH DO YOU FEEL IS RIGHT FOR YOU?
Let the decision come from inside of them, with their own resources and innate power. If they need coaching, new ideas, more options, or help with blocks, OFFER it. But THEY MUST CHOOSE ON their own.
Once they decide…
4. ASK: WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO NEXT? and perhaps…WHAT SUPPORT WOULD YOU like FROM ME?
Say yes (or no!) to their specific requests. REQUIRE that they ASK directly and specifically for what they want with your involvement and do exactly (only) what you said you would do.