All attempts to get what we want through indirect means are manipulation.
Including the following:
-Telling our story to get others to feel sorry for us or give love & validation.
-Wanting others to do things for us and using emotional responses to guilt or pressure them into doing so. (like withdrawing love, or getting angry.)
-Using indirect methods of communication instead of open, direct DIALOGUE with the SOURCE.
We are powerful enough to create the LOVE we want and the things we feel are ours to obtain, by going directly to the source and ASKING for what we need.
if someone says to me, “I am so burdened, so frustrated…”
I am looking for what they want.
I am waiting to hear their direct requests.
“Can you share your love with me?”
“Can you give me some coaching tips?”
Going to the SOURCE and asking specifically for what we desire is the only true, healthy way. God also waits for us to ASK for what we need and invites us continually in the scriptures to do so.
Using emotion to secure what we want in any other “indirect manner” is out of alignment with our true selves which crave deep honesty, authenticity without masks and meaningful relationships by choice…not guilt ridden obligation.
When we do enough work inside to get ourselves here, and we are this clear and certain, we are now in a position of powerful Creation.
We communicate well and with clarity.
We handle our emotions with responsibility, and yield our words consciously.
With these skills, we can obtain healthy love;
We live in pure relationships that come from original desire, and we are ready to experience true abundance in all it’s forms.
If you think people owe you something–more love, more money, more appreciation, an apology.
It means you are still outside sourcing important aspects of your life.
One thing I never hear from people who are connected to their own power is the story of how they believe someone owes them something.
They never talk about how they need an apology, a phone call back, or someone slighted them with money.
They are in the driver’s seat. They are connected to their own power and to God. They have so many great things going on, they live in a place where there is not lack.
Because they create so much for themselves, including emotionally, they don’t get “hurt” or perceive shortages from others. If a relationship doesn’t work for them, they simply change THEMSELVES and therefore they make sure they have a different experience.
Who are all the people that you feel haven’t given you enough?
What personal power have you given away to them? What are you still “waiting” to be given from another person so that you can be truly happy?
If you tell the truth, Resentment for them will turn into compassion for yourself, when you didn’t know what you were doing.