Category Archives: Be Happy & Free-Life Principles!

Communicate Well and with Clarity

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All attempts to get what we want through indirect means are manipulation.

Including the following:

-Telling our story to get others to feel sorry for us or give love & validation.

-Wanting others to do things for us and using emotional responses to guilt or pressure them into doing so. (like withdrawing love, or getting angry.)

-Using indirect methods of communication instead of open, direct DIALOGUE with the SOURCE.

We are powerful enough to create the LOVE we want and the things we feel are ours to obtain, by going directly to the source and ASKING for what we need.

For example,

if someone says to me, “I am so burdened, so frustrated…”

I am looking for what they want.

I am waiting to hear their direct requests.

“Can you share your love with me?”

“Can you give me some coaching tips?”

Going to the SOURCE and asking specifically for what we desire is the only true, healthy way. God also waits for us to ASK for what we need and invites us continually in the scriptures to do so.

Using emotion to secure what we want in any other “indirect manner” is out of alignment with our true selves which crave deep honesty, authenticity without masks and meaningful relationships by choice…not guilt ridden obligation.

When we do enough work inside to get ourselves here, and we are this clear and certain, we are now in a position of powerful Creation.

We communicate well and with clarity.

We handle our emotions with responsibility, and yield our words consciously.

With these skills, we can obtain healthy love;

We live in pure relationships that come from original desire, and we are ready to experience true abundance in all it’s forms.

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Biz Tip: Stay Inside Your Boundaries

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From thousands of hours of coaching, it seems that nearly all business/relational conflicts come down to boundary issues.

“What is my part?”
“What is your part?

Do what’s yours.

Do it with clarity, and pure intent and don’t own what isn’t yours (and don’t apologize)

More to come later..

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Change Yourself for a Different Experience

Change Yourself

If you think people owe you something–more love, more money, more appreciation, an apology.

It means you are still outside sourcing important aspects of your life.

One thing I never hear from people who are connected to their own power is the story of how they believe someone owes them something.

They never talk about how they need an apology, a phone call back, or someone slighted them with money.

They are in the driver’s seat. They are connected to their own power and to God. They have so many great things going on, they live in a place where there is not lack.

Because they create so much for themselves, including emotionally, they don’t get “hurt” or perceive shortages from others. If a relationship doesn’t work for them, they simply change THEMSELVES and therefore they make sure they have a different experience.

TRUTH DIVE:

Who are all the people that you feel haven’t given you enough?

What personal power have you given away to them? What are you still “waiting” to be given from another person so that you can be truly happy?

If you tell the truth, Resentment for them will turn into compassion for yourself, when you didn’t know what you were doing.

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What Is It Time To Let Go Of?

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When you accelerate your speed, you have to let go of things that are too heavy to work anymore, like…

**Not taking time to rest & take care of yourself.

**Thinking you’re not worthy of success you’re achieving.

**Trying to be perfect all the time & constant “image management.” (poison)

**Not being honest about what you think and feel.

**Pushing yourself beyond healthy breakdown into terminal breakdown.

**Other people’s problems that don’t belong to you.

**Continuing to think about and carry the past.

What you let go of, is just as important as what YOU HOLD onto.

Breathe in and make some changes.

You get to be as “LIGHT” as you can, to keep moving and ever evolving.

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You’ve Got This

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I have seen a lot of people get knocked down by life lately. And I watched them get back up again.

Apparently, they are not going to take this lying down. They refuse to be defeated. No matter what life throws at them, they just keep getting up and getting up to fight another day and make their way to paradise.

TO all of you YOU … I salute you.
And cheer for you.
Angels and a world of people are cheering you on today.
Take a deep breath.

You’ve got this.

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Stay Steady in Transition

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One of the reasons I love the sea, is that it reminds me that everything comes and goes.

Life is always changing. A situation comes today, and by tomorrow it’s over. That was the deal–the way this was set up.

We, eternal beings, would be placed on a planet where everything was constantly in motion. A thousand things a day would come at us–some of them difficult and confusing–but all of them temporary, while we searched for happiness, and survival.

What would we do? How would we respond?

The flow is always coming, and another going at the very same time.

While I sit here in front of the ocean, I have the thought of two years ago when I went through some really hard times. I can’t remember much. The details are so faint in my head now. The one part I can remember, is thinking that I was going to die, the pain was so intense sometimes.

I didn’t die…. [ to my surprise at times]

I just kept living. I couldn’t die, it seemed.

I’d fall into bed exhausted, and the next day would tap on my shoulder and wake me up wanting to me to live it. Day after day, new opportunities came to learn and integrate that learning into my being.

I am so saturated in happiness now, I sit in wonder often at how all this came to be.

As the waves roll in one after another, no end in sight, I am looking for the pattern, trying to pin point how I got from there to here.

I remember that in each life situation that came rolling in, I would look for my own center–Even if it tumbled me, I was looking to grip the ground.

In everything, I asked God to walk me through it.

I let go of blame and anger and looked for the fastest entry point to peace.

I always had to take that exit alone, getting rid of the story of “everyone else,” –what they said, what they thought, what they did — blah, it only weighed me down.
Christ–who is the God of my understanding–WAS my tour guide. It was His voice I looked for; His presence, and I could find it every time I silenced the world and asked him to meet me.

A while ago, someone asked me how I got to be attuned to spiritual things. I have no answer except that I know if you reach for your God a thousand times, a REAL BEING comes to meet you. He is completely alive. His voice sounds a certain way. His Spirit has a resonance. His Light is so familiar. He is not an ethereal fictitious character written with black ink on thousand year old pages. He — is — close, so reachable.

There is no lack of access to Him; all of our separation is lack of desire and discipline in reaching FOR Him.

And that was THE WAY. A true, genuine relationship from one soul to another.
It’s the answer I am looking to give to myself when I wonder how I got from pain to peace.

My own affidavit that God is in our cells, waiting for us to take look into our own DNA.

The more we practice PEACE, the more it becomes who we are. And soon, we get so tall, that a lot of waves roll in that we don’t even notice.

I am not sure what tomorrow will bring. Thankfully, I don’t need to know. There will definitely be more waves.

Yesterday there were four different people who expressed a unhappiness with me for different reasons. There were two phone calls of business emergencies, a total emotional fit from my daughter, and a twelve year old deeply unhappy I said no to him. Plus, I have a load of whites I haven’t washed for three days and I am totally out of underwear now. (That’s probably more than people want to know.)

There is going to be more waves…lol…I know that for sure.

They will come and go.
That’s what waves do.

I will always have the same question in front of me.

How do I want to experience this?
Who do I want TO BE while I am here?

I really do feel, that looking for the CENTER, the Highest response, and direction from the God of my understanding, is the ONLY answer there is ever going to be to these thousands of situations.

And the ONLY ONE required.

 

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The Choice is Yours

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Christmas is a time of many exciting things, but it’s not perfect.

A lot of people grieve and others suffer from unmet expectations.
Whatever we’re experiencing, there are so many choices that can make a difference in how we feel.

Sending love and peace, wherever you happen to find yourself.

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Challenges Reveal Who We Are

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It is tempting to look at struggles or losses and say these things define us.

Challenges do not define us, they reveal us.

They deliver a compelling reason to strip the layers of ourselves–who we thought we were, the small plans we had for our lives, the selfishness we adored, the ego we’ve upheld…and un-do who we “are not,” giving us an opportunity to come naked before God and make a decision: choose to grow.

Then we see who WE are more clearly.

We see how STRONG we are; how good we are; how indomitable our will can be; how often we have chosen God, and how each day we have done our best with what we knew.

Challenges reveal who we are … to ourselves.

We come to know ourselves a little better and how much we are loved, and that God has been looking out for us, protecting, preserving and caring for us every day while we’ve been away at Earth School, even when we didn’t realize He was present.

Challenges allow our sight to open. If we choose to stay open and not shut down, we see so many things.

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I Approve of Myself

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Everyday, you are creating your life according to your deepest beliefs. The more you allow these “I am” beliefs into your mind, the more they will take root in your life.

A must have arsenal in your skill sets.

 

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You Are Stronger Than You Think You Are

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Been thinking of this lately … Life seems random, but I don’t think it really is.

What if EVERYTHING is about learning? Think about it. We get to be in Earth School for a little while and then we’ll move on. What is the WHOLE ENTIRE GAME is set up a certain way to induce greatest learning in the individual student.

So, if you are in an abusive relationship, let’s say…and you may feel powerless and blame for a long time, but over time, you learn to LOVE YOURSELF and you grow that power inside yourself enough to create something different.

The relationship ends, but the POWER in you remains, and you get to live forever with that increase.

Maybe you lose your job, or your money, and you fall down into fear and uncertainty. But you rise back up to creation and power, THROUGH the experience. And you get all your money back, or more. You also have MORE of YOURSELF. You have more knowledge, creativity, strength, tenacity.

The longer we sit and ask, ‘Why me?” the longer we stay IN the pain.

It’s not LIFE that need change, WE get up and CHANGE.

The quicker we say, “What I am to GAIN from this?” the faster we graduate out of the experience and travel forward.

What if nothing is happening “TO” us …
But it’s all happening FOR us.

If life has given you something challenging recently, it’s a sure vote of confidence in your favor. Things can be very intense at times, and yet, it wouldn’t be happening if you couldn’t one day EXCEL your way through it.

Get more honest with yourself about who you really are and don’t fall
into fear.

YOU CAN handle it.

You’ve done hard things before and you came out of them stronger.

You can do it again.

 

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