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LIVE IN THE QUESTION is a state of mind that is creating radical opportunity for me right and left.

How can I get to a 7 figure income working less than 20 hours a week?🤔

How can I lean out, get more muscle, and have more fun all at the same time?

QUESTIONS are leading the way for me.

A question that doesn’t have an answer yet CAN TAKE YOU A NEW PLACE you have never been.

If I focus on what I already know, then I’m gonna end up with something that I already have.

But I want increase, so I’m asking to go where I haven’t gone before.

I want money I haven’t created yet.  I want parts of life that I’ve never lived in before.  I want to love in a way I haven’t experienced love before.

So the question HAS TO LEAD (you get me?!)

I’ve been strategizing with a potentially big leader (super big) for my team and we are negotiating the terms.  When I sit down at the table with her I’m thinking “How can WE BOTH get all that we want out of this — more than we expected?”

When you ask a question, answers you didn’t see or know before have an ENTRY POINT into your space.

Buddhists talk about beginner’s mind: the state of openness that doesn’t know.  This is what leads to MORE.

Ego mind–the “I know” mind– is my least favorite to hear about.  Really? You were born of the cosmos and you came from the Gods.  You be been here like 5 earth time minutes.  You *can’t* know.  And You’re so tiny, you don’t know what you don’t know, so permanently STAY OPEN MINDED.

Open to all possibilities

Ok, last story. This week I was meeting with a team member who had decided to let go of a major income stream and status rights in her country. “I can’t fit it in with my family schedule.”

She was right!

So I said, “ok, so we know what is NOT going to work, but there are 50 more options.

We only need ONE.

Let’s play.” We listed creative idea after creative idea and the doors flung open and her mind lit up and suddenly she saw CHOICES.

She stopped thinking: “I am going to lose this”, and started feeling EXCITED how she could keep it.

If something is right, and if it’s FOR you, there’s always a way.

STAY ON THE QUESTION.

Ask questions you don’t have answers to, live inside the space of openness and just keep asking

The cosmos created you.
You have much much more to
Learn, have and RECEIVE.

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“My whole career started because I wanted to put words on a page,” I told a friend recently.

It was a moment where you happen to speaking words that are a revelation to you while you’re saying them.

This whole thing started twelve years ago and I was loaded with fear, limiting beliefs, and insecurities. During small segments of time, I would write about the mess that I was. As my fingers pounded on the keys, I knocked down walls in my mind one line and one page at a time. I soon began to find a more graceful way to exist in my own life. That’s the “why” on my entire career –its natural point of origin.

Freedom.

Writing was the vehicle that drove me there. It took me to the depths of radical honesty to just put words to how I was living. It was like an invisible staircase would appear and I could find the way out.

After months of writing random pages, they lined themselves up into chapters and it was picked up by a publisher. The book turned into a radio show. The radio show turned into speaking requests. Speaking turned into coaching programs. Coaching turned into a wellness product community (doTERRA) And then everything got so fast, it became a blur. A following grew, a customer base grew, and I climbed to the top of the company! I was traveling here and there and money kept rolling in faster and faster and life got bigger. I found I was accidentally creating things that were bigger than my ability at times to manage. Some days I was leading it and other times it was leading me.

It was all born from desire to get out of a tiny existence where I was crawling through life.

It was a big victory for me, that first book, and those first miles of self-recovery. Perhaps my biggest yet because I remember how scared I was. I was a college dropout who spent years just followed my husband’s career and I thought “no one in the world is going to read this crap” and who do I think I am to even try this? I wrote it while I was terrified and sent it to a publisher (still terrified) and people did read it and the rest un-spooled after that.

I thought of all this after what I said out loud: “My whole career began because I wanted to write words on a page”.  Looking back, I can see when I stay true to that core, I am the happiest.  When I write to my readers, on my blog, and as I keep journaling and draft chapters of my next book, I am always renewed and filled with passion. When I get too busy for that, I die out.  When I work with entrepreneurs who feel burned out, I ask the question:

What got you started?

I ask them to go back in time to find ORIGINAL FIRE where they went to work just for that thing and nothing else. They always have a reason and they almost always light up when they think of it. Now, let’s bring it back into the center of what you do every day, I tell them. Adjustments are made, they clean out their overbooked schedule a bit, they make room for a little more self-care time and soon the passion comes back. Writing is the center nucleus of creativity for my entire work and it keeps me connected to core truth of who I am and what I’m doing. No matter how busy you are, when you stay connected to your core, you’ll always be home.

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How to keep a clear mind

Hey, I know you’ve got a lot to do and you’re probably amazing at staying super calm, patient and clear minded all the time … haha :) but in case you’re like me and you need a little help with that, I’m going to give you my top 3 tricks to getting in your zen space, even when you have a lot to do!

Tip 1: Meditation

Three years ago, I hired a meditation teacher for about $150 an hour to my house and train me on his techniques and it was amazing.

About once a week :)

What I needed was DAILY practice, but I lacked the discipline and know how to give this gift to myself so when I found this app, I was ecstatic.

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Did you know that in under 30 minutes a day, Harvard researchers found that meditation will actually chain your brain chemistry?

It decreases your fight or flight response and increases your rational thinking ability, the problem with most people is they feel they don’t have TIME.

This handy little app will give you 5 minute meditation options all the way up to an hour and even sends you REMINDERS throughout the day.

Imagine me in my office at 1pm, hours into my work day getting a reminder that says, “Are you present?”  I love it! It’s just what I need!

Tip 2: Peppermint & In Tune Essential Oils

So of course, you knew this was coming, an essential oil tool and the reason I love these babies is because they do the work for you!

A few months ago, I woke up every day for three days with brain fog.  I couldn’t get my mind clear and it was really frustrating me.  I’d look at my work schedule and I felt like my communication was hazy and losing impact.  On the third day, I was driving to pick up my daughter from her friends house and my mind completely cleared. I felt like the foggy glass I had been looking through was shining perfectly bright again.

“Wow, maybe a drive was all I needed,” I thought.

But then I remembered I put In tune on the back of my neck right before I left the house and I started to laugh.

Duh!  Why didn’t I use this oil three days ago?!

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That’s how I got my testimony of in tune and peppermint has a similar effect on me. I keep a roller bottle in my purse at all times and have been known to use it on strangers I’ve just met (with permission, of course :)

I love to diffuse peppermint and wild orange in my office during the day because it keeps me alert.

Think about that for a moment.
You might not feel like you want to put in that kind of effort or even spend that money, but how much are you LOSING because your mind is not working on maximum impact.

For me, an hour at work at my highest level is worth 3 or 4 hours of time on a lower energy level.  I can’t afford *not to do these things!

Click HERE to watch an INTRO webinar about essential oils!

TIP 3: Create Your TOP 3

Top 3 is a little phrase in my community that signals us to the highest, most effective action that will yield the highest results that we want.

I keep notecards handy in my office and my desk, and haha, I’ve even been known to keep these in my bathroom vanity because for some reason, I get mad inspiration when I’m doing my hair.  Go figure, BUT…

let’s say I want to increase my sales for the month and that’s my goal.

Here’s what I WOULD NOT Do.

I wouldn’t walk around thinking, “I wonder if we’re going to make it.”
I wouldn’t check every single team in my back office and if I see any kind of lag, think, “Oh no, we’re not going to get there.’

Blah. Gross. That makes me want to vomit.

I would go to a much HIGHER place, of belief, radical positivity and massive action.

Here’s how to use TOP 3.

**Write on a note card what you want.  Mine might look like this:

We break $2 million in sales this month.  (I write it in the present tense as though it exists NOW.)

**Then, I write down my TOP 3 effective actions for me to do that will get me the highest results. Only 3. I focus all my energy on HIGHEST IMPACT.

I might write down…

Close all my new leads.
Do an enrollment webinar
Promote incentives to builders

I go all out on action, not stress.

During that time, here’s what I would NOT do.
Surf social media, bob around here and there with my activities.
Nope. I’d become super protective of my time and DO EXACTLY what was going to get me where I wanted to go.

It would keep my head clear and my emotions calm so I could use that energy to MOVE
(not to stress!)

So…there you go!

Remember, you really can do this.
You can achieve the big goals you have in your life and keep your mind calm and clear at the same time!

Madd love baby!

Heather

 

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How I Got Lost, Drenched and Found in the Mountains

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(How I Got Lost, Drenched and Found in the Mountains) On Tuesday, I jumped in my truck and drove north to marinate my soul in nature. So much family and business action this year has been exhilarating and also left me in need of recharge.

When I reached the red hills of Sedona, I stopped for a new pair of hiking shoes. I chit chatted with a master guide there about how we both chose to be business owners for the freedom, but we don’t take enough time off to enjoy it. (Though, he leaves 4 months a year just to hike, so he might be doing okay :)

“Well, this very day, I am making progress,” I declared, as I scooped up my new kicks off the counter.

He responded, “Sedona is a great place to manifest change” and stared at me square in the eyes.

The words hit me hard. Like in the center of my chest hard, and I carried them with me on the highway as I drove.

I pulled into a hiking area in Coconino National Forrest and started my way up West Fork Trail and was immediately surrounded by colossal red rock that engulfed me like an ant. Green trees towered all around– juniper, pine and aspen.

The air smelled like happiness.

I was in instant ecstasy as I trekked alone up the trail, passing people here and there, exchanging friendly hellos.

While I hiked, I thought of something I read in the gift shop back in town.

“Learn the lesson and let it go.”

This year had given me incredible perspective from deep experiences that had been miraculous, and sometimes painful.

I knew to leave everything in the past & take only two things:

GRATITUDE and WHAT I HAD LEARNED.

If you want to move at a rapid pace, there’s no other option but to travel light (mentally, emotionally.) But I hadn’t let everything go — I carried some worries, a few regrets and a tiny swatches of dense emotions.

As my feet pounded up the hill, I wanted each step to stamp clear any residue hiding in the inner parts. I stepped with intention to have ALL OF ME CLEAR and clean in the present.

I crossed the stream that wove itself all throughout the trail, and hopped on my toes from rock to rock. On the other side of the fresh water, I found new trails, more birds– so much life.

The mountainous stood stalwart and hadn’t moved in thousands of years.
The rain or scorching sun could beat down– or a fire burn the surface (and it has) — and they’d just go with it.

They were built to recover. They would use whatever came and grow life again.
A silent monument of acceptance — acceptance of what comes and a reminder to treat life like a process, not an amusement park, teaching travelers how to live and how to die.

About three miles into the hike, it began to rain. I adored it (at first.) I stood under the shelter of a tree and watched water polka dot the dirt around my shoes, waiting for it to pass. After twenty minutes or so, it became obvious it wasn’t going to clear, and I headed back the way I came.

Soon, the sky grew darker and in 2 minutes, I was soaked. Desert monsoons, aka summer rain storms, can be fierce and nothing to mess with. It’s Arizona’s only claim to actual “weather,” and it’s a good one.

As the downpour increased, I sped back quickly to the entrance. The once semi-populated trail was now barren and I hadn’t seen a single soul for at least 30 minutes.

Still, I felt safe and peaceful, and was thoroughly enjoying my adventure until I was about half way back, and the trail I was following appeared to be swallowed up by the rising stream. (Let me jump in here to say that David is not happy at this point in my story, and in case you’re concerned, know that he’s done due diligence to warn me about hiking alone.)

No trail. Now what?

The sky had dumped the entire belly of it’s contents on my head and I was so wet, I might as well have walked right out of a swimming pool. My back pack was soaked all the way through and my once protected cell phone has seized during it’s warm July bath.

And have I mentioned that I am geographically challenged?

I pulled out a plastic orange “I’m lost in the woods whistle” that I bought at the sporting goods store with a chuckle the night before, thinking I would never EVER use such a thing. I laughed at myself as I blew it but, the sound didn’t carry far through the wall of water in the sky, plus there was no one around to hear me anyway. It was useless and I felt ridiculous so I put it away.

No trail, no phone, no people. Hmmm…What to do?

Pray, of course. (Always phone home when you’re in trouble.)
Soon, I had a gentle inclination — “stay here, people are coming.”

So, I waited.

I waited for 5 minutes.
Then 10 minutes.

The sky grew angrier and flashed with lightning.

My mind had the thought “it might be time to worry.”
It had now been 45 minutes since I had seen another human being.

“They are coming, wait by the stream…” I felt the simple instruction again and chose, very purposefully, to do what I was told — wait — and keep a clear head.
(screw you, fear, you hear me?)

In another 5 or 6 minutes, they popped out of the brush and emerged at the edge of the stream.

Four. Glorious. Beings. (imagine heavenly music playing) A silver-haired couple, about 60 years old with walking sticks; a beautiful black woman in her 20’s and a shirtless, energetic man with curly hair and athletic build.

I shouted at them from across the stream and they invited me to come over and hike back with them.

You would have thought we were long lost friends at a planned reunion. The wild and wonderful circumstances in which we found each other had wiped out the walls we usually have with people we just met.

Micheal, was an actor (no joke) on his way to Hollywood. He had been on Blacklist, many national commercials, and on the CMT series, Sun Records, to name a few. Heidi told us about her cancer and I could see how strong (and stubborn) she had been about her choice to fight for her life and win. Chelsea was an opera singer in grad school in Oklahoma, contemplating her future path. She and Micheal swapped stories about breaking into the music business (his life before acting.)

We took a group selfie on the bridge and shared a cup of hot tea on a couch at a nearby cafe that had a stunning resemblance to a grandmother’s cabin. There were books, board games, a piano, an old record player with a gramaphone and two fireplaces.

But no inside bathroom.

So I changed into dry clothes in the “employees only” room at the back entrance (door locked) and I’m pretty sure I was the first person to be naked in there next to the pots and pans.

Turns out Micheal had escaped for a few days to the mountains because he had been working too much, felt he was out of balance and was taking some time to get back to himself.

As I listened to another person put words to the exact thing I was experiencing, I realized the long string of spontaneous gifts this day had rolled out for me in eloquent sequence.

I came here by myself because I needed some time to rejuvinate, but I wasn’t alone. The hiking guide clued me in that changes were coming. The mountains taught me to let go and live a cleaner, simpler life. Inspiration taught me how to wait when I think I’m in trouble and watch for the answer on it’s way.

And new friends reminded me that connection is everywhere. The world is kind, people are loving, and life has my back.

Stay open, say yes, and steer hard into what matters most.

I felt smarter than I did in the morning,
and lovelier as a human overall.

Here’s a picture of the area. It wasn’t taken by me.
My pictures (and past) were washed by the rain :)

PS. If you’ve been texting me, I’ll have a new phone on Tuesday.

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How to Turn Setbacks into Huge Advantages!

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There is so much you can learn from setbacks, which frequently turn out to be huge gains, but only if you handle them …. juust right. (If not, ouch!)

Some of my biggest gains came right after breakdowns, which woke me up to a better direction and led me to a course that was far better for me in the long run.

When you have setbacks, there is one thing you definitely want to avoid…I talk about that on the video… and three things you want to employ RIGHT away to make it through!

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Here’s a direct link to the video, watch it and tell me what you think!
https://youtu.be/-OXZ19EXn_4

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May 19, 2017

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(Get my new E-book (free) 101 Uses for Essential Oils that Will Blow Your Mind!)

You may know that I personally love essential oils and also have a large wellness community, but you probably don’t know how it got started and the personal problems I had that got me hooked on the oils in the first place

Here’s the untold part of the story…

In 2010, I had been a struggling author and talk radio show host for five years (making about $50 a month) who at long last was introduced to the world of internet marketing and quickly found my fire.   Within a year, I had sold over 6 figures of products and programs and in 2012, I had created my own systems to help other wellness businesses develop products, and market and sell them online.

I loved the work I was doing. I had great clients and I was making more money than I had ever dreamed of, but … almost no one knew I was suffering terribly from post traumatic stress due to childhood trauma.

I was mostly silent about this issue and trying to handle it on my own.

My life was beyond my wildest dreams.  I had a great husband, four amazing kids and a thriving business, but I felt so awful inside, and I was struggling to make it through each day.  I was constantly fighting emotional pain, low energy, and anxiety.

One day a friend sent me a box of essential oils and I literally said out loud, “This is weird.”

Then I opened one of the bottles and the aroma of fresh oranges filled the air. My low spirits lifted immediately and right then and there I was hooked.  If something so small could help me feel this good, I needed it!

I signed up for the monthly purchasing program and for the next year I used oils religiously.  I craved them like oxygen and began to count on them for so many things — sleep, high energy, immunity, emotional balance, and staying calm to I make it through my life day by day.

According to my husband, I began to sprinkle oils on everything in sight, including him!  He was a dentist and would feel under the weather about once a week from being exposed to so many germs from his patients.  As soon as he started taking On Guard, he felt great all the time and became a big believer, sharing the oils with his staff and patients.

The more I researched oils, the more I found.  They could literally do thousands of things!  (check out my new E-Book, 101 Uses for Essential Oils That Will Blow Your Mind
http://HeatherMadder.com/oils

*Digestive support
*Boost metabolism
*Clear breathing
*Cooking, cleaning, detox
*Healthy Skin
*Repel insects

I looked forward to my order arriving every month.  We started using vitamins, hair care, skin care, all the products were toxin free, high quality and creating a long last a wellness environment for me and my family.

About a year later, I was upstairs in my house — I still remember where I was standing —

and the Voice of Inspiration spoke to me and said, “Sell essential oils.”

“How?” I wondered, but I decided to take action on the prompting, even though I didn’t know the answer.

The next week I called my coaching clients and shared with them how much the oils had done for me and I offered them essential oil kit options along with coaching packages from me.

I enrolled about 25 people during the next few months and then simply went back to the world I knew–business coaching.

A few months later, checks were still rolling in from dōTERRA even though I wasn’t selling oils at the time.

First $100, then $200, then $400.  I called it “mad shoe money” back then because extra surprise spending money showed up in my mailbox each month.  When a $764 check arrived, I was so intrigued, I called my friend who had recently started the dōterra business to ask her what in the world was going on with this company.  She told me how fast the oil business was growing and how many people’s lives it was changing. I soon realized checks were coming to me because the people I had enrolled were still buying oils and recruiting other people.  They loved the products like I did — that was obvious.

I decided to give the business a try for two reasons.

The oils had done so much for me and I knew that it was going to work.  They had changed my life and I wanted to be involved in something that would do the same for others.  If other people loved them half as much as I did, they would keep buying.  Secondly, I wanted to be a part of a larger community. I had been in business for myself all this time and I worked hard–really hard for everything I had.  If I ever took time off, my income would stop immediately.  I craved support, help from a community, and a secure financial future I could count on.

Shortly after my commitment to build the business, I rose to the top ranks of the company and I never looked back.  In 2014, my husband David sold his dental practice and began to build dōTERRA with me as a joint partner and now my kids have both parents at home full time who build a life mission around our family and we’ve never been happier!

Today, this wellness community (a gift from God and the hands of so many others!) sells $25 million a year and reaches into 35 countries.

It all started when a single drop of orange oil lifted the weary spirits of a struggling woman.

Today, I am blown away by what the oils have done for me, my family and so many people we know.

That’s why I am so excited to share them with other people, and you’ll notice that I’ve been talking about them more and more right alongside my coaching programs, because they are a TOOL you can use to enhance every single aspect of life.  Plus, the purpose we have found in empowering other people’s lives brings us true fulfillment and we want to share that!

Every day we make an effort to express our gratitude for what we have and thank God for leading us here, because He knew the way.

He knew a drop of orange would lift the spirit of a silently struggling woman and I needed the oils for my healing journey.  He knew I’d follow the direction I had been given — sell the oils, even though I didn’t know how.  He knew mad shoe money would turn into a full time career for both me and my husband.

If you’re reading this and you’ve been struggling with emotional burdens, low energy or health issues, or you’ve been interested in oils, why don’t you send me an email and we can chat.

Who knows what might happen for you.
I can send you some info and samples and will be right there to take great care of you!

I’m so grateful to the person who sent me a box of oils several years ago and I want to be that person for others.

Huge, life changing journeys can often be traced back to a small starting point.

http://HeatherMadder.com/oils

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My Kids Essential Oils Routine (I took these out of their room!)

How My Kids Use Essential Oils

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I am creating a WELLNESS HOME for my family, because I want my kids to be bathed in everyday practices that are so familiar to them, THRIVING is a way of LIFE!
(we don’t just use essential oils when we’re sick, we practice wellness each and every day!)

If you’re a Madder, Feeling GREAT is a family standard!

I bet you want that for your kids, too!! So you’ll be interested in watching this video to see how
we have integrated essential oils into our family practices.

Direct Video Link: https://youtu.be/rql_5M6KRtY

My kids have picked up on it and now they DO IT THEMSELVES!

I went into their room to and grabbed their oils to create this videos :)
but I plan to have them back before they get home…

If you would like a free wellness consult where you can chat with someone and then get some samples of essential oils, please visit click HERE.  Direct link! >> https://goo.gl/forms/ZWqH5daknmDt0rcC3

 

 

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Three Key Things to Achieve Your Goals (New video!)

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Hey, hey, I made this new VIDEO for you to give you not only HOPE, a clear baseline list  list of the must have things to make your goals happen!  If you have these three things, you can make it. (You really can, so stop doubting it all the time)

#3 may surprise you a little, and sometimes people are surprised to have a business coach talking about stuff like this, but it’s true, and deep down, I think people agree with it.

Direct link here >> https://youtu.be/gbgJVrSka0E

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I Have All The Tools I Need To Succeed

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If you’re creating big goals, but you never seem to get there, try this…
Instead of changing your whole life in one day, try changing your life DAY by DAY, because small steps, over time, create huge results.

For example, you don’t have to quit your day job to write your book. Instead, create a one hour window each day and do the most productive things with the hour you have.

When you make something too big, you put psychological weight on it and people avoid things that feel heavy to them (even they we want what it contains.)

Yes, you do want an overall vision, but nearly all of your focus is going to be spent on the daily steps.

When I am coaching my team, I ask this question at the end of our sessions: “What’s your Top 3?”

The Top 3 are the MOST PRODUCTIVE next-step actions that are going to get them where they want to go.

There’s a lot more about this very thing on my webinar >> How to Achieve Your Biggest Goals in 60 Days!

We cover a lot of ground in our calls together and I want TOP 3 to be fresh in their brain, so right when they hang up the phone, they have laser focus on the most productive tasks first.

A healthy business (and a healthy life, body, marriage, anything…)
comes from executing the Right Steps, with High Efficiently, Over time.

So, if you want to eat healthier, you might not want to go full-fledged organic over the weekend and throw out all the bread. It’s too much.

Eating healthier begins with one single decision in the morning to choose an apple instead of a doughnut for breakfast.

That one small decision leads to a workout at the gym to keep it going.

You have absorbed the feeling of being “healthy” so you flow to the actions.

Small steps get you close to the FEELING of something.
The feeling of something gets you into the motions.

Some people believe that if they can’t pull out scriptures and read for 30 minutes in the morning, they’ve ruined their connection with God for the day.

But five deep grounding breaths can get you tuned in.
Hey, one half breath can do it if you’re really focused.

Sometimes we get the idea that we need these huge swaths of time for our goals, but what we need are small consistent swatches of attention.

EXPEDIENCE is a heavenly principle.

It means hitting the target.
It is doing the ‘exact amount’ with high accuracy.

If you never get around to doing what you want, maybe you made it too heavy.

Or you have planned to do more than is necessary.

Ask: What are the steps for *me* amount needed to accomplish this,
and just DO THAT.

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My Space

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I’m obsessed with high vibe, beautiful, calm spaces that feel AMAZING to be in.

So, here’s “the couch” in my office and the place where I sit until I am in my highest self.

I literally won’t plan my day, train my team, make decisions, or resolve conflict until I’m in my “highest self.” It’s a time for reflection or maybe, on occasion, a time out for grown ups, haha!

Each of these numbers represents a purposeful thing that brings high energy, every element is created with a purpose

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