Take care of the most important things in your life to secure HAPPINESS and SUCCESS.
If we think we are too busy for these things, we may find that we achieved some of the what we wanted, but lost what mattered most.
4 DAILY RITUALS critical to lifelong happiness.
1. CONNECT to the DIVINE
Everyone one of us has a Supreme Creator. This force of Life lives in us as our daily breathe. It is the be-all, end all of our existence. My experience of the Divine is Perfect Love. There has never been a moment in His presence, that I have not felt loved, worthy, and good enough. Even as I’ve been corrected, I’ve been loved to the infinite extremes.
All the breaks in this relationship are our own. When we don’t feel good enough, worthy, or important we forget; we delay. Even in our forgetting, He remembers, and calls out for us. The wind whispers His existence. The lines in our palms point to Him. The moment we pause and look to home, the Heart remembers it’s Origin; it’s Supreme Creator. In this marriage, the Divine and Us, we can have a perfect life–our our own version of it.
CONNECT to THIS SOURCE EVERYDAY.
My recommendation is to do it in a way that you love. Don’t make it difficult. Is breathing hard for you? No, it’s the most natural thing in the world. So is connecting to Him. Don’t carry the belief that this must be formal, unusually long, or intensive, or you’ll delay and never get it done! Even before my eyes open in the morning, my heart is reaching out for this. As I sweep my kitchen floor, I am saying thanks to Him for my home and asking what’s next on my list for the day. While I type this paragraph, or do a coaching call, a part of my mind is listening for the next words He has for me.
You are not alone. The more frequently you reach to this Source, your moments becomes infused with Light that makes you happy and the power to do the things to accomplish your work here. You see that even taking a breathe is a spiritual experience. MEDITATION, PRAYER, UPLIFTING MUSIC, READING HIS WORD, WALKING IN NATURE, and an open conversation that runs all day...He is ACTIVE and ENGAGING with YOU THROUGH all of those things. And every single moment you spend with him, pays you back 10,000 fold.
2. LOVE YOURSELF
How do you feel loved? It’s your responsibility to love yourself. It’s no one’s job to love you. They can, if they want to–but that’s none of your business. If you love yourself enough, you will naturally migrate to people who love and accept you. If you don’t love yourself, and you are always trying to prove you’re good enough–you will migrate to people who criticize you and may at first seem to adore you, but turn easily at seeing your flaws.
If that’s your experience, you can change all of this.
And you can BEGIN right NOW, by LOVING YOURSELF.
How do you talk to yourself? Some people are so abusive in their thoughts, that they wouldn’t treat animals the way they treat themselves, but the untrained mind has been abusing the self for years.
There is no one who needs you more than you.
There is no one who deserves your love more than you do.
When you make the decision to love yourself, you will make healthy decisions. You find that you choose to be around people who protect you, not expose you. You find that you create a circle of friends who accept you, not gossip about you.
The beginning of this is YOU.
The ORIGINAL RELATIONSHIP–the one you are having with yourself, is the script writer for every other relationship you have in your world.
So, again, let me ask you the question:
How do you feel loved?
Know what that is, and then do those things.
Me? I love long bike rides, morning walks, and nice clothes. I spend money on them. Even when I didn’t have money, I was going to discount stores in my budget to find them on sale racks, because I felt good wearing nice clothes and I was willing to find a way to do what made me feel good. I have never regretted it.
I love candles, soulful music, sparkling water in long stem glasses, fresh fruit, pure lime juice, dark chocolate,
snuggling with my husband, a good daily dose of Gilmore Girls. I do all of those things and rarely never let them slide.
It’s our privilege to create a life that WE LOVE.
That begins with a belief that we have permission to have that, and we have the power within to make it happen.
Once we have an unyielding commitment inside to love our lives, we can always find a way.
3. NURTURE YOUR FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS
What is it like to have me as a mother?
I’ve asked myself this so many times.
What is it like from THEIR PERSPECTIVE?
When my kids think of me, I always want them to feel that they were loved, cherished and believed in.
I’ve learned that each of my kids have their own love language.
Each of them is different and it’s simply a matter of observing them, asking them questions, listening and training myself to follow through.
My 11 year old son loves snuggle with me in bed at night. His face lights up, his eyes gleam and when I hold him, I can feel his energy expand inside.
His brothers outgrew snuggling years before him, but I will let him fall asleep with me next to him as he will allow it.
It’s like both of us move towards wholeness inside. I feel like pieces of me are coming together. For him–it’s like his 11 year old DNA will carry the code, “I am loved.”
Every day I get to make these imprints in his experience. Everyday I get to tell him that he is important and cared about. Everyday I praise him and point out his good qualities in front of other people. I try never to tear down his trust–no unkind words, no negative criticism, no teasing, no speaking of his past mistakes, no harsh tones in his behalf.
Sometimes I fail at this, but I apologize.
We are not too busy to be nice to people. We are not too familiar with each other to think this isn’t necessary. Yesterday I sent a text to my teenager, “I am thankful you are my son.” He didn’t text me back Maybe he never will. But it was SENT, and that’s what matters.
Make dinner for your family, even a simple one. Read scriptures with them. Hold them at night. Rub their back while you watch TV. Facebook message them that “they are awesome” if you have to. Take your kids on dates. Buy flowers for your wife. Leave a note in your husband’s car thanking him that he goes to work everyday to take care of you. He doesn’t have to do that. (Great men don’t grow on trees. If you are lucky enough to have one, tell him.)
It’s not just what it does for them, but what it does for US…We were created to love this way.
We find ourselves by loving others.
4. TAKE CARE of YOUR BODY
The body is the vehicle that makes your life possible.
The minute it gives out, your life ceases here.
The body will give back to us whatever we are giving to it.
If you we give it healthy food, it will give you energy and Life.
If you poison it with toxins, processed “food,” it will give you disease (and debilitation.)
We are slowly killing ourselves in socially acceptable ways.
Eat food as close to nature as possible. The way it comes out of the ground, is the way your body wants it.
You don’t need what you think you need for lunch (a hamburger and french fries)–a salad, almonds, glass of water, and an orange or two
is plenty of food to keep you energized and going for several hours.
When you listen to your body (and not your eyes), you will give your body what it needs.
When you give your BODY what it needs—it will give you what you want–
Energized life and long-time health.
The best secrets to weight loss are not secrets at all–burn more calories than you consume each day.
AND…Get up and move!!
Exercise 3-5 times a week for a minimum of 30 minutes is a basic standard that anyone can do!
Studies have shown that people who practice these SIMPLE PRINCIPLES can increase their life span and much higher energy than those who don’t.
If we have created the story that we are too busy to exercise and too stressed out to eat well,
then who is going to do it for us?
No one is coming to save your sinking ship, but you.
You are not too busy to take care of the vehicle that makes your whole life possible.